No matter what you’ll want to use some sort of physical protection to avoid pregnancy and STD’s. There are tons of contraceptives available to you. Here is some information so you can decide which is right for you:
- Male Condoms
Condoms are probably the most popular form of birth control and pregnancy prevention available. They’re cheap, extremely effective, and easily accessible. They also come in a variety of sizes and colors. For extra protection you can get condoms with spermicide or use them in conjunction with spermicidal lube. You can get textured (“ribbed”) condoms to increase her pleasure, glow in the dark condoms, even flavored condoms! And if you or your partner are allergic to latex, not to worry! Condoms are also available in lambskin.
- Female Condoms
Whereas a male condom is wrapped around the shaft of the penis, female condoms are inserted into the vagina before intercourse. They are slightly less effective than male condoms. Similar to male condoms, you can use them with spermicidal lube to further decrease the chance of pregnancy.
- Dental Dams
Dental Dams are a way to keep you both safe while you’re giving her oral pleasure. They create a barrier between your mouth and her genitals so you’re not exposing yourself to any potential STD’s.
A diaphragm is a small cup that is inserted into the vagina prior to sex. It covers the cervix so the sperm cannot enter through it. They are about 88% effective. Since a diaphragm ONLY covers the cervix this is not a good product to protect you from STD’s. The vagina itself will be completely exposed and diseases can easily be transmitted this way. Only use a diaphragm with a partner you trust!
- Depo Provera (aka “the shot”)
Depo Provera is a form of hormonal birth control.
***Before we get into specifics, please note that hormonal birth control is only for pregnancy prevention. It will not keep you or your partner safe from STD’s.
The Depo Provera shot is administered by a physician once every three months. It works in two ways. One, it creates a thicker cervical mucus which makes it difficult for the sperm to get through. Two, it prevents ovulation. If there is no egg, there is nothing to be fertilized by the sperm, and therefore pregnancy cannot happen. Depo Provera is quite effective and you don’t have to remember to take it every day.
- The Pill
Probably the most popular form of hormonal birth control, the pill is also very effective at protecting against pregnancy. It works the same way as the Depo Provera shot and comes in many brands. You will need a prescription from your doctor to get the pill. If you choose this birth control method you will need to remember to take it every day! You must remember to take it at the same time each day. A good way to remind yourself is to set a daily alarm on your phone.
There are many other types of birth control you can use, so we recommend doing some research and talking to your doctor about what’s right for you!
If you’re not ready for sex you can always stimulate your partner with sex toys. Some options are vibrators, dildos, and butt plugs. Talk to your partner about what they might like to try. We can almost guarantee if you can think of it, it’s available for sale somewhere! When you are ready for intercourse, you can incorporate your fun toys into it as well. Good toys are never a waste!